I generally refrain from commenting on what others are doing in the world of coaching or transformation.
As a coach and facilitator for more than two decades, I’ve watched something shift.
The industry has become increasingly saturated.
And in many corners of it, a lack of real training, education, and personal power (defined as the ability to relate to reality as it is, not as we interpret it) is being compensated for with inflated terminology, seductive copy, and bold declarations.
Language is being used to shock, to stop the scroll, and to promise things we all know don’t actually happen.
So, we grow distrustful.
And when that happens, something else gets lost:
The meaning of words, and their power to support our ability to create.
When the language of transformation becomes performative, more about optics than substance, it becomes harder to trust anyone using similar words—even when those words are true.
I still use words like essence, returning to yourself, and self-trust.
Not because they’re fancy, but because they are the most accurate pointers I have for something that can only be understood through direct experience.
The Power of Your Own Word
Let’s zoom in even closer.
What happens when we cheapen our own word?
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You say you’ll go to the gym, and don’t.
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You promise to call, and don’t.
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You tell yourself you’ll start something important, and push it off again.
Every time we break a word to ourselves without honoring it, we weaken something we hold sacred: our own integrity.
We begin to believe our word doesn’t matter and our capacity to create suffers too.
This is why, in my life and in my work, I take my word seriously.
I don’t over-promise.
I don’t treat this work like a performance.
What Real Change Looks Like
The work I do with clients isn’t inflated or performative.
It isn’t a formula.
It’s a container where real things happen, like:
✔ Noticing when your reactive self takes over
✔ Choosing to pause, reflect, and act from who you really are at your core
✔ Feeling creative energy come back online, without needing it to “make sense”
✔ Letting your relationships shift because you stop reenacting old patterns
✔ Rebuilding trust with yourself through consistent action, not pressure
This kind of work doesn’t require perfection.
But it does require honesty.
And a willingness to treat your word like it matters again.
That’s the heart of what I do in my work, and inside my program Create Your Life as a Masterpiece (the next one begins September 20).
Because when words lose their power, it’s not another tool, performance, or formula we need.
It’s a reset.
A return to integrity.
To presence.
To yourself.
Marija
