Dear Friends & Creators,
Last week, I shared about Create Your Life as a Masterpiece, and I want to give you a quick update—the start date is now March 22 instead of March 15.
This week, I want to share something a little different. Something personal.
The past few days have felt like a collision of old patterns I thought I had left behind—almost like a personal reckoning. And oddly enough, it all started with Meghan Markle.
The Trap of Comparison
For reasons I was once too embarrassed to admit, I’ve been drawn to Meghan’s story since she joined the royal family. I never followed celebrities closely, but Will and Kate’s milestones happened alongside mine, so I paid attention. Then Meghan came onto the scene, and suddenly, my attention shifted—but not in a way I’m proud of.
It was bad timing. I had just had my second child, I was exhausted, and my late-night Instagram scrolling had become a mindless habit. And like so many, I got sucked into the discourse—judging her acting, critiquing her presence, nitpicking how she measured up to Catherine.
But it wasn’t about Meghan. It was about me (more about this on -> my YouTube channel or Instagram)
At the time, I had no idea how deeply my ego was running the show. I wasn’t comparing her to Kate—I was comparing her to my own unspoken insecurities. And the more I focused on her, the less I had to face me.
A Hard Truth
I used to pride myself on my sharpness, my ability to argue my way through anything. I thought my strong opinions were a sign of confidence. But here’s what I had to face:
I was kind, generous, and open—until someone crossed me. Then, I was ruthless. And I felt completely justified in that.
It wasn’t until I worked with Sophie McLean, a transformational teacher I deeply respect, that I saw what was really happening. I reached out to her, thinking I needed help dealing with jealousy. I thought there was a quick fix. Instead, I got months of deep, humbling work to dismantle the version of myself that only knew how to fight, react, and defend.
And here’s the thing—once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
Choosing Creation Over Reaction
These days, the world is still fixated on Meghan—her latest Netflix project, her evolving public persona, the endless debates. In the past, I would have been right in the mix, adding my own sharp commentary. But now, I step back. Because I see it for what it is—another distraction, another way for people to project their own unresolved stuff onto someone else.
That’s not to say I don’t feel the pull. I do. And I won’t pretend I’m perfect—I caught myself watching more clips than I intended this past weekend. But here’s the difference:
I didn’t add to the noise. I didn’t contribute to the negativity. Instead, I observed. I let the thoughts and judgments rise without getting on board with them.
And I reminded myself of the only question that matters:
Is reacting to someone else’s life ever going to help me create my own?
The Bigger Picture
We live in a world obsessed with duality—good/bad, right/wrong, love/hate, praise/criticism. But none of it is the truth. It’s just noise.Perspectives on what is.
The real work is in transcending that. In choosing creation over reaction.
I don’t expect the world to change overnight. But I do know this: the discomfort of the ego is something we can move through—when we own up to it as it comes up.
And that’s why I wanted to share this today. Because it’s liberating to stop giving it power.
What About You?
What part of you comes forward when things don’t go as you think they should? Do you react, justify, defend? Or do you step back and observe?
I’d love to hear your thoughts. And if you’re curious about Create Your Life as a Masterpiece, let’s chat.
